According to this study my personality type is considered to be the exact opposite of the prefered type for a female, which is ESFJ. Although the sample size in this study was limited I find that I can strongly relate to the experiences of these women. Feeling out of place, preference for male company over female, feeling judged for being non normative, rejecting gender stereotypes and feeling stifled by expectations to be submissive and nurturing as a default.
My sister is an ESFJ and we have a very close, supportive and honest relationship. I appreciate her openness and kindness and she can turn to me for support and advice. Seeing that we have over ten years of age difference may explain some of it (I am the eldest), but I am convinced at least part of this is relating to our types. The results of this survey show that INTPs are indeed one of the preferred types ESFJs would date. Opposites attract? Maybe. But, looking at the cognitive functions stacking may be more enlightening. The ESFJs dominant function is Extraverted Feeling. This is the INTPs least developed function but nonetheless one the two types share. The INTP appreciates the ESFJ’s kindness and the ESFJ in return can see that the INTP, behind the cold analytical exterior actually cares for people.
I have always been interested in psychology, specifically psychoanalyzing myself and the people around me. Being shy and socially awkward ever since I can remember I found observing people and their behaviours to be a good way of predicting their actions. If only a viable method of categorising people existed. Of course, I was not the first person with these thoughts and, as I discovered, various methods of personality typing existed since times immemorial. Astrology, numerology, the chinese zodiac just to name a few, were all systems which were dedicated in trying to explain human behaviour.
The MBTI is a system largely based on the work of the Swiss psychiatrist Carl Jung. Its authors Katharine Cook Briggs and Isabel Briggs Myers proposed that people can be grouped into 16 types based on their intrinsic personality characteristics. These are extraversion vs introversion, sensing vs intuition, feeling vs thinking and judging vs perceiving. A preference for one function over the other is assumed in each case, although individuals can theoretically fall anywhere in the spectrum. Although there’s no study that sufficiently proves the system’s validity and it is widely accepted that self typing tests are often inaccurate, MBTI has been widely used by organisations and HR departments in efforts to form teams that work together more efficiently, or in hiring.
This is a blog about my personal experience with the MBTI, my type and my relationships with other people. Being in the autistic spectrum, I am aware that some of the attributes I associate with my type may well be autistic traits, so I thought it’d be beneficial I mentioned I am indeed not neurotypical.